I write and edit content for businesses and publications. I also help businesses build and maintain relationships with clients and prospects through content including email newsletters, emails, websites, landing pages, blogs, articles and more. I started blogging on June 1, 2000 — around the same time I started my freelance business.
Rejection Isn’t Personal
Some of the world’s most famous authors have been rejected many times. Here are a few that I found around the web and the number of times rejected in ().
- Diary of Anne Frank (15)
- Harry Potter by J. K. Rowling (9)
- Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach (18)
- Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen (140!!!!) And how many books do they have now?
- A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle (26)
Search for “rejected books” or something similar, and you’ll find many more.
It’s not you. It’s not your writing. It’s them.
No, this isn’t an analysis of a bad date. Publishers and editors have a perspective that we don’t know about. We don’t know what they have in hand. We don’t know what they want. We don’t know their plans.
Yes, even if you submit a fantasy novel to a publisher known for fantasy books. You’re on the right track submitting to the publisher, but the publisher may have specific things in mind that have nothing to do with the author or the book.
You don’t have teachers grading your papers — telling you what you need to fix. If you get an feedback of any kind, listen to it. Be thankful the publisher or editor took the time to provide it. Use it to help you grow.
You’re human, so you can’t help but take it personally despite knowing that it’s not personal. Take a moment. Take a deep breath. Talk to someone. Exercise. And then come back to it ready to do what writers all do — try again.